LISTENING: SOMETHING THAT MAKES A BETTER PERSON

Les Giblin stated in The Art of Dealing with People:”Oilver Wendell Holmes once said being able to listen to others in a sympathetic and understanding manner is perhaps the most effective mechanism to have a better interpersonal relationship and a better friendship”.
Listening makes you smart!
Contrary to popular opinion that we have to speak to show we’re smart, listening in fact may cause the same effect. Sometimes I let myself silent and listen to others’ opinions, complaints, and then I find myself a wiser person. Yeah, it’s true…When pals of mine tell some bad experiences they had, I tried to soothe them, comfort them, and by this, I tried to overlook the downside of the matters. Turns out the problems weren’t that bad….So listening really teaches me sensitivity and wisdom and of course the art of positive thinking.
People will say what they want so long as you’re available for them
Two-way human interaction is the best type of interaction. So don’t let you deaf to what others people want you to know. Sit together, sip some tea or coffee, listen and respond properly. It works most of the time.
Talking too much is a self-suicidal act
Successful people are skillful at making others talk and reveal their opinion and thinking. Speak moderately. Sometimes it’s better for you to keep silent a while, let our partner spill everything s/he wants and there’s some point where you can respond wisely.
Self-absorbed people tend to have less friends
I know some people in my social life who seem to have no close friends. As I tried to find out why by talking to them in person, I instantly knew they’re such a self-absorbed person. They gave me a little amount of chance to speak, they’re relentlessly rambling about their achievements, in a seemingly very proud manner…They tried hard to impress other interlocutors, they kept talking about something boring, their own personal experience everyone else can’t even grasp or ever had…Talk and get laid back, you’ll get more than what you expect.
Know what they want, what they need, who they are, and you’ll be able to communicate effectively
Listening to someone while s/he’s talking is simply an appreciation of their existence. When you’re listening to what they speak, they feel like they’re an important person. Remember, most of us are glad to get other people’s attention and appreciation.

LISTENING: SOMETHING THAT MAKES A BETTER PERSON

Les Giblin stated in The Art of Dealing with People:”Oilver Wendell Holmes once said being able to listen to others in a sympathetic and understanding manner is perhaps the most effective mechanism to have a better interpersonal relationship and a better friendship”.
Listening makes you smart!
Contrary to popular opinion that we have to speak to show we’re smart, listening in fact may cause the same effect. Sometimes I let myself silent and listen to others’ opinions, complaints, and then I find myself a wiser person. Yeah, it’s true…When pals of mine tell some bad experiences they had, I tried to soothe them, comfort them, and by this, I tried to overlook the downside of the matters. Turns out the problems weren’t that bad….So listening really teaches me sensitivity and wisdom and of course the art of positive thinking.
People will say what they want so long as you’re available for them
Two-way human interaction is the best type of interaction. So don’t let you deaf to what others people want you to know. Sit together, sip some tea or coffee, listen and respond properly. It works most of the time.
Talking too much is a self-suicidal act
Successful people are skillful at making others talk and reveal their opinion and thinking. Speak moderately. Sometimes it’s better for you to keep silent a while, let our partner spill everything s/he wants and there’s some point where you can respond wisely.
Self-absorbed people tend to have less friends
I know some people in my social life who seem to have no close friends. As I tried to find out why by talking to them in person, I instantly knew they’re such a self-absorbed person. They gave me a little amount of chance to speak, they’re relentlessly rambling about their achievements, in a seemingly very proud manner…They tried hard to impress other interlocutors, they kept talking about something boring, their own personal experience everyone else can’t even grasp or ever had…Talk and get laid back, you’ll get more than what you expect.
Know what they want, what they need, who they are, and you’ll be able to communicate effectively
Listening to someone while s/he’s talking is simply an appreciation of their existence. When you’re listening to what they speak, they feel like they’re an important person. Remember, most of us are glad to get other people’s attention and appreciation.

I DON'T REALLY LIKE NATURAL SCIENCES AND NEITHER DO INDONESIAN STUDENTS NOWADAYS….

“Govt to attract students to natural sciences” is the huge headline on The Jakarta Post a couple of days ago, which dragged me to my past memory. I preferred English Literature to exact,or natural science.
First of all, all my family members and relatives are not farmers, fishermen,or people related to any jobs requiring them to study or learn how to fish well, plant well, breed cattle well. So i don’t really have any background or even wild imagination of earning my living as one of those. Therefore, I suppose it’s a kind of cultural and mindset hindrance. How can Indonesia be a modern maritime,agricultural country while the parents don’t really endorse the proud of being a maritime, agricultural country to their kids? Indeed, Indonesian still think that such jobs aren’t quite prestigious. Most of them (and my dad isn’t an exception) have a stance that having a job or getting a job as a govt civil servant is the best, as it is the safest, most financially guaranteed job. You get paid monthly, at a regular interval, without even having to think what to do something innovative, to create something new, to think creatively, which these people only consider as ‘difficulty’. You just obey the rules, do what your superior tells to you to do, and that’s it. But for some others, the difficulty may be viewed as ‘challenge’, ‘opportunity’.
The universities try to tackle this by offering scholarships (like what the University of Indonesia’s rector stated), changing the name of the subject into something more interesting (which sounds quite shallow and silly to me!), incorporating the natural sciences with other sciences to respond to the job market’s demand, and giving grants to the existing natural science departments to develop or improve the infrastructure and overall quality.

THE SHORTEST SHORTCUT

It’s been a while since the last time I sat in a classroom staring at a tutor,lecturer, or whoever it may be called. These past three and a half years what I’ve been doing is presenting and explaining materials in front of others, simply put.
But this is definitely a new experience….Learning a foreign language from almost zero..yeah pretty much from the very bottom, the very basics of everything. Being a novice still gives a different sense to me. I love the challenges, adore the complaints I’m continuously saying when ordered to memorize numerous number of new vocabularies, and definitely enjoy the satisfaction when winning the race against the lazy part of me.
Today wasn’t quite fun. My tutor, Anwar Sonsaengnim (that’s what we should call him-I’m taking Korean course), was away and we -other students and I- were simply abandoned in a not-so-spacious classroom.
Some strangers were coming into the door, wanting to meet our sonsaengnim (“teacher/someone clever” in Korean). They were apparently his guests wishing to discuss something with him.
Before leaving us, he assigned us to do the exercises. I happened to know that there was already a answer key page attached in the rearmost part of the textbook. No one in my class, however, was aware of this, at least as far as I knew. It seemed that they never read or scrutinized the book before, which is so unbelievable as we have it as our sole source of learning. Yeah, they didn’t know until I disclosed the fact that there was an answer key! At first they all took the assignment quite seriously…but I then decided to test how far they can think for their own sake. And I should’ve known they’d fail it. I spilled out the ‘top secret’, the rest of the class heard it, and proved my word. Some looked so surprised (they found all of the answers), and of course happy at the same time. Without even thinking twice, they copied all the answers.
I felt so sorry for their failure of being a good, sensible student. Most of them are younger than me, and they have less motivation to absorb the knowledge…What they always think is the shortest shortcut
But I hate shortcuts that intensify the complexity of my life…I hate shortcuts that create more problems than solve problems.
As I finished my course, I also tried to build my own Korean learning blog

WHY SHOULD WE THANK PANDORA?

It was a divine coincidence that I stumbled upon a Greek story about Pandora on http://greece.mrdonn.org/greekgods/pandora.html. After I thought a moment after that, I realized how inspiring this story/myth can be for us and can be a theme story for this blog. Human beings were destined to live in sufferings, pain, difficulties, and lots of others untold predicaments.
After Pandora stole and opened the lid of the box Zeus gave to her husband, it is told that:
“Out flew every kind of disease and sickness, hate and envy, and all the bad things that people had never experienced before. Pandora slammed the lid closed, but it was too late. All the bad things were already out of the box. They flew away, out into the world.
Pandora cried and cried. Epimetheus woke up at the sound of her sobbing. I opened the box and all these ugly things flew out,?she cried. I tried to catch them, but they all got out.?Pandora opened the box to show him how empty it was. But the box was not quite empty. One tiny bug flew quickly out before Pandora could slam the lid shut again.
Hello, Pandora,?said the bug, hovering just out of reach. My name is Hope. With a nod of thanks for being set free, Hope flew out into the world, a world that now held Envy, Crime, Hate, and Disease, and also Hope.”
So many people out there are struggling to figure out the mystery of life and each of us is having problems with our lives. Frustrating but true, we need those ugly things named Envy, Crime, Hate, and Disease to make our extremely gloomy world turn bright. Those ugly things seem to be blessings in disguise, for those who know how to live this life.
As for me now, I need to open another ’Pandora’s box’ not to make myself suffer from all the misery it may cause, but to give myself the hope I need to continue this life in a more meaningful way. Starting something new is like opening a box we don’t know the content at all. And what it all takes is the courage to simply open, start, begin, and dispel the haunting fear at the very same time. Pandora had risked herself by opening the box and finally gotten the merits of Hope. So? Let’s focus on releasing Hope in our own box,as Hope is worth releasing.
Thanks Pandora for releasing hope for us…

GOSSIP GIRL

Gossip Girl is a satirical American teen drama television series based on the book series of the same name written by Cecily von Ziegesar. The series is created by Josh Schwartz and Stephanie Savage, which premiered on The CW on September 19, 2007. On February 24, 2009 The CW renewed the show for a third season.[1] Narrated by the omniscient yet unseen blogger “Gossip Girl”, the series revolves around the lives of privileged teenagers attending an elite private school in New York City’s Upper East Side. The series began with the mysterious arrival of bad girl turned good Serena van der Woodsen (Blake Lively), who attempts to start a new page in her life with her friends and family, starting a relationship with Dan Humphrey (Penn Badgley), an outsider who becomes a part of the turbulent Manhattan scene. Gossip Girl also features Serena’s best friend and ally Blair Waldorf (Leighton Meester), a beautiful Queen Bee of Manhattan’s social scene. As of the third season, students who graduated from high school navigate their way through the real world or university.

I DON'T REALLY LIKE NATURAL SCIENCES AND NEITHER DO INDONESIAN STUDENTS NOWADAYS….

“Govt to attract students to natural sciences” is the huge headline on The Jakarta Post a couple of days ago, which dragged me to my past memory. I preferred English Literature to exact,or natural science.
First of all, all my family members and relatives are not farmers, fishermen,or people related to any jobs requiring them to study or learn how to fish well, plant well, breed cattle well. So i don’t really have any background or even wild imagination of earning my living as one of those. Therefore, I suppose it’s a kind of cultural and mindset hindrance. How can Indonesia be a modern maritime,agricultural country while the parents don’t really endorse the proud of being a maritime, agricultural country to their kids? Indeed, Indonesian still think that such jobs aren’t quite prestigious. Most of them (and my dad isn’t an exception) have a stance that having a job or getting a job as a govt civil servant is the best, as it is the safest, most financially guaranteed job. You get paid monthly, at a regular interval, without even having to think what to do something innovative, to create something new, to think creatively, which these people only consider as ‘difficulty’. You just obey the rules, do what your superior tells to you to do, and that’s it. But for some others, the difficulty may be viewed as ‘challenge’, ‘opportunity’.
The universities try to tackle this by offering scholarships (like what the University of Indonesia’s rector stated), changing the name of the subject into something more interesting (which sounds quite shallow and silly to me!), incorporating the natural sciences with other sciences to respond to the job market’s demand, and giving grants to the existing natural science departments to develop or improve the infrastructure and overall quality.

THE SHORTEST SHORTCUT

It’s been a while since the last time I sat in a classroom staring at a tutor,lecturer, or whoever it may be called. These past three and a half years what I’ve been doing is presenting and explaining materials in front of others, simply put.
But this is definitely a new experience….Learning a foreign language from almost zero..yeah pretty much from the very bottom, the very basics of everything. Being a novice still gives a different sense to me. I love the challenges, adore the complaints I’m continuously saying when ordered to memorize numerous number of new vocabularies, and definitely enjoy the satisfaction when winning the race against the lazy part of me.
Today wasn’t quite fun. My tutor, Anwar Sonsaengnim (that’s what we should call him-I’m taking Korean course), was away and we -other students and I- were simply abandoned in a not-so-spacious classroom.
Some strangers were coming into the door, wanting to meet our sonsaengnim (“teacher/someone clever” in Korean). They were apparently his guests wishing to discuss something with him.
Before leaving us, he assigned us to do the exercises. I happened to know that there was already a answer key page attached in the rearmost part of the textbook. No one in my class, however, was aware of this, at least as far as I knew. It seemed that they never read or scrutinized the book before, which is so unbelievable as we have it as our sole source of learning. Yeah, they didn’t know until I disclosed the fact that there was an answer key! At first they all took the assignment quite seriously…but I then decided to test how far they can think for their own sake. And I should’ve known they’d fail it. I spilled out the ‘top secret’, the rest of the class heard it, and proved my word. Some looked so surprised (they found all of the answers), and of course happy at the same time. Without even thinking twice, they copied all the answers.
I felt so sorry for their failure of being a good, sensible student. Most of them are younger than me, and they have less motivation to absorb the knowledge…What they always think is the shortest shortcut
But I hate shortcuts that intensify the complexity of my life…I hate shortcuts that create more problems than solve problems.
As I finished my course, I also tried to build my own Korean learning blog

WHY SHOULD WE THANK PANDORA?

It was a divine coincidence that I stumbled upon a Greek story about Pandora on http://greece.mrdonn.org/greekgods/pandora.html. After I thought a moment after that, I realized how inspiring this story/myth can be for us and can be a theme story for this blog. Human beings were destined to live in sufferings, pain, difficulties, and lots of others untold predicaments.
After Pandora stole and opened the lid of the box Zeus gave to her husband, it is told that:
“Out flew every kind of disease and sickness, hate and envy, and all the bad things that people had never experienced before. Pandora slammed the lid closed, but it was too late. All the bad things were already out of the box. They flew away, out into the world.
Pandora cried and cried. Epimetheus woke up at the sound of her sobbing. I opened the box and all these ugly things flew out,?she cried. I tried to catch them, but they all got out.?Pandora opened the box to show him how empty it was. But the box was not quite empty. One tiny bug flew quickly out before Pandora could slam the lid shut again.
Hello, Pandora,?said the bug, hovering just out of reach. My name is Hope. With a nod of thanks for being set free, Hope flew out into the world, a world that now held Envy, Crime, Hate, and Disease, and also Hope.”
So many people out there are struggling to figure out the mystery of life and each of us is having problems with our lives. Frustrating but true, we need those ugly things named Envy, Crime, Hate, and Disease to make our extremely gloomy world turn bright. Those ugly things seem to be blessings in disguise, for those who know how to live this life.
As for me now, I need to open another ’Pandora’s box’ not to make myself suffer from all the misery it may cause, but to give myself the hope I need to continue this life in a more meaningful way. Starting something new is like opening a box we don’t know the content at all. And what it all takes is the courage to simply open, start, begin, and dispel the haunting fear at the very same time. Pandora had risked herself by opening the box and finally gotten the merits of Hope. So? Let’s focus on releasing Hope in our own box,as Hope is worth releasing.
Thanks Pandora for releasing hope for us…

GOSSIP GIRL

Gossip Girl is a satirical American teen drama television series based on the book series of the same name written by Cecily von Ziegesar. The series is created by Josh Schwartz and Stephanie Savage, which premiered on The CW on September 19, 2007. On February 24, 2009 The CW renewed the show for a third season.[1] Narrated by the omniscient yet unseen blogger “Gossip Girl”, the series revolves around the lives of privileged teenagers attending an elite private school in New York City’s Upper East Side. The series began with the mysterious arrival of bad girl turned good Serena van der Woodsen (Blake Lively), who attempts to start a new page in her life with her friends and family, starting a relationship with Dan Humphrey (Penn Badgley), an outsider who becomes a part of the turbulent Manhattan scene. Gossip Girl also features Serena’s best friend and ally Blair Waldorf (Leighton Meester), a beautiful Queen Bee of Manhattan’s social scene. As of the third season, students who graduated from high school navigate their way through the real world or university.