Les Giblin stated in The Art of Dealing with People:”Oilver Wendell Holmes once said being able to listen to others in a sympathetic and understanding manner is perhaps the most effective mechanism to have a better interpersonal relationship and a better friendship”.
Listening makes you smart!
Contrary to popular opinion that we have to speak to show we’re smart, listening in fact may cause the same effect. Sometimes I let myself silent and listen to others’ opinions, complaints, and then I find myself a wiser person. Yeah, it’s true…When pals of mine tell some bad experiences they had, I tried to soothe them, comfort them, and by this, I tried to overlook the downside of the matters. Turns out the problems weren’t that bad….So listening really teaches me sensitivity and wisdom and of course the art of positive thinking.
People will say what they want so long as you’re available for them
Two-way human interaction is the best type of interaction. So don’t let you deaf to what others people want you to know. Sit together, sip some tea or coffee, listen and respond properly. It works most of the time.
Talking too much is a self-suicidal act
Successful people are skillful at making others talk and reveal their opinion and thinking. Speak moderately. Sometimes it’s better for you to keep silent a while, let our partner spill everything s/he wants and there’s some point where you can respond wisely.
Self-absorbed people tend to have less friends
I know some people in my social life who seem to have no close friends. As I tried to find out why by talking to them in person, I instantly knew they’re such a self-absorbed person. They gave me a little amount of chance to speak, they’re relentlessly rambling about their achievements, in a seemingly very proud manner…They tried hard to impress other interlocutors, they kept talking about something boring, their own personal experience everyone else can’t even grasp or ever had…Talk and get laid back, you’ll get more than what you expect.
Know what they want, what they need, who they are, and you’ll be able to communicate effectively
Listening to someone while s/he’s talking is simply an appreciation of their existence. When you’re listening to what they speak, they feel like they’re an important person. Remember, most of us are glad to get other people’s attention and appreciation.