A GOOD STUDENT ISN'T THE SMART, BUT THE USEFUL ONE…SINCE SOMEONE SMART CAN BE EVIL

If there’s someone asked me, ” Is there any school that everyone wants to go to? I’d say, “Yes, it is!”. And that ‘school’ is called “Qaryah Thayyibah“……
Unlike yesterday morning, I tried not to listen to terrorism-scented news, but alas! My dad was ironing his clothes near the TV set and took the liberty to hold the remote control. I couldn’t help hearing the names of the terrorism suspects.
Around 9.30 I had nothing particular to do and there was a sudden urge to watch TV. I saw a seemingly-not-really-fit teenage girl named Zulfa, swinging her closely-held saber confidently. It looked like she was practicing her wushu moves. She explained in detail how she just started to get lured by the graceful yet powerful moves of wushu. It’s definitely unusual for a Javanese moslem girl like Zulfa (she wears veil,too) to be attracted by this kind of sport. I know I’m stigmatizing now,but it’s inevitable,and I guess almost everybody on this planet thinks the same way,too. Wushu isn’t a Javanese, or at least an Indonesian sport. It’s not even widely played or showcased here. In Indonesia, wushu tournament or competition is hardly ever heard, advertised, or publicized.Wushu athletes are ordinarily Chinese (though some exceptional cases are found,but not much). Ok, onto the core of business, what Zulfa was actually elaborating was that she felt extremely lucky to find and have Qaryah Thayyibah as her ‘school’. She told her teacher at Qaryah Thayyibah how glad if she could’ve practice some wushu. Her teacher luckily recalled an acquaintance running a wushu training center. Without doubt, the teacher contacted and pleaded to the acquaintance so as to make Zulfa one of the students there. He managed to do that,and Zulfa ended up being a wushu female student. Six months passed, Zulfa made lots of progress and felt challenged by a wushu tournament, and this would be a nationwide scale. She resolved and went on, though she found the massive challenges ready to confront her. Zulfa-who had just practiced wushu for 6 months- had to compete against bunch of wushu athletes who had started practicing wushu for years. And just like a miraculous and victorious ending part of typical Hollywood movies, she surprisingly won the competition at her age category. But you may wonder, how could Zulfa opted for wushu to be her lesson to learn? The answer’s at Qaryah Thayyibah students may choose anything to learn and teachers are to accomodate the students’ interests. Forget the rigid curriculum made by the Indonesian national education ministry, forget other people’s interference about what lesson to learn. That’s how this ‘school’ is different.
Another prominent student is Mira (ooops, I forgot the name actually, but let’s take it for granted, Shakespeare says “what’s a name?”), who is a reckoned author already at her teenage years, having managed to published several books launched to the market. Marvelous! This young author admitted how frustrated she was at school, she found school’s curriculum very restrictive to her personal development. As she kept explaining, she took her curiosity of Chairil Anwar’s biography as her ‘tragic’ example. Having higher passion of learning literature, she reminisced asking the question “Can I read Chairil Anwar’s biography?” to her elementary school teacher. Like any other ordinary teachers, s/he quipped,”We’ll learn that later on, when you’re at higher grade”. And that sounded terribly absurd for our writing prodigy. Years later, she found herself gradually lazier than before to go to school. She thought there was nothing fun she could learn at school. And no one can blame her for having such stance.
I added the quotation marks between the word school as this Qaryah Thayyibah isn’t a school AT ALL, in our conventional perspective. Physically, you can’t find any sights you expect to see from a school building. You can’t either find the whole features a school should have there. No fence, no uniform, no fixed desks, no hard wooden brown chairs. The classrom can be anywhere, literally. They can be sitting under the huge, shadowy trees growing just before the simple building of the so-called school. They can do anything ranging from doing science experiments, making clay pots, or reciting lines of poems they love.
Even though Qaryah Thayyiban looks awkward compared to costly international or national standard schools but it has ‘it’, something that is really avant garde, authenthic in any way possible. But above all, what I really adore is its freedom to choose what to learn, and what to do with one’s interest, intelligence, and potential. There’s nothing in the Milky Way that can beat the enjoyment or pleasure of learning something useful with passion.
Like no other school, Qaryah Thayyiban is trying to liberate the souls of its students, and the most importantly do its best to accomodate the students’ highly diverse interests. And that’s what makes Qaryah Thayyiban worth appreciation.
If you’re having much leisure time, try to see what it’s like. Qaryah Thayyibah is located at Kalibening, Tingkir Lor, Salatiga.

EAT MORE SUGAR…AND FIND YOURSELF LOOK OLDER

How dangerous liberal intake of sugar is already well known among health-conscious people. Diabetes type 2,obesity, bla bla bla and the list goes on. Yeah right, the list goes on. Now, it’s for youto reconsider how much sugar you’re gonna eat today..However, sugar has another VERY unwanted side-effect – it makes you look old before your time!
That’s according to Yahoo’s ‘Skin Guru’ Dr. Leslie Bauman.
I’m no expert in skin care, but I think the explanation is fairly easy to understand. She says…
“Sugar triggers a natural process called glycation, which is the same chemical reaction that turns meat brown when you cook it. The sugars bind with tissues to form harmful molecules, called advanced glycation end products (ironically known as AGEs), which damage elastin and collagen — two substances your skin needs to stay supple and elastic. AGEs also damage the kidneys, brain and other essential organs.”
So it would appear that a high-sugar intake damages elastin and collagen – that’s bad news.
It’s humorous, but also tragic, to watch television commercials marketed at women. One advert will sell the latest must-have skin cream to ‘Defy Aging‘. This is followed by an ad for the latest low-fat ice cream, low-fat cereal bar, low-fat chocolate bars (and on and on and on…..) – all LOADED with sugar.
Their message is clear: Keep your skin looking young with miracle creams, AND, easily control your weight with low-fat, and therefore healthy, products – yeah right!
The unsuspecting female population remains unaware that the 2 advertised products are actually working AGAINST each other.
Not that this only affects women. We live in a time where it’s OK for men to care about how they look, watch what they eat, and even use some cosmetic products if they wish. Aren’t we? It isn’t just me, is it? .
Anyway, Dr.Baumann goes on to say..
“And it’s not just the obvious culprits, like soda and candy, that cause damage; other foods with a high glycemic index, like white bread, pasta and potatoes also cause the formation of AGEs, because they are quickly converted to sugar in the bloodstream.”
I think the REAL message is this: get on a healthy diet that stabilizes your blood sugar – and do it as soon as possible! You’ll:
Be leaner
Have more energy
Have a better lipid profile
Stay looking younger for longer…
…to name but a few. If you don’t enjoy low-carb diets, a low Glycemic Load diet is what you need

LET'S LIVE LONGER

Work out, stay fitter
Regular exercise keeps the heart ticking, prevents Type-2 diabetes, maintains and builds muscle mass, keeps up energy levels, and also elevates mood in a big way. It has been found that moderate low-impact exercise is the best solution to a long life. Small lifestyle changes like walking/cycling to your nearby destinations for chores, taking stairs, doing household chores, and gardening can go a long way towards prolonging your life. This is what Buettner calls “deconveniencing your home”!
Gardening is one of the few ways of getting exercise in a pleasurable way. It helps develop a nurturing attitude towards nature. Plus, being out in the sun gives a good dose of vitamin D. The benefit of reaping fresh produce from your own garden is quite unbeatable.
Yoga has been propounded as a tool for longevity since centuries. It is low on impact, but high on strengthening the muscles and ligaments, leading to more flexibility as we age. A loss of muscle mass, accompanied by a gain in fat mass, occurs with ageing. Yoga is great for longevity because it strengthens the muscles and ligaments that surround bones and joints without putting pressure on them. Movements become more fluid and less stiff overtime.
T’ai Chi, the Chinese art of choreographed meditative exercises, has been around for centuries. It is not only enjoyable, but also can be performed at any age. When practised for 30 minutes, thrice a week, it helps improve energy and balance, strengthen immunity, reduce stress, better sleep, and keep the body flexible.
Eat better, live longer
There’s plenty of truth in this old adage — “We dig our graves with our teeth.” We are what we eat, so it is no surprise that our diet plays a vital role in how we age. A research done on the centenarians in Japan and China revealed that they ate mostly fish, vegetables, mushrooms, seaweed, corn, buckwheat, and hardly any meat. Scientists have proven the health benefits of eating a plant-rich, meat-free diet. These geriatrics rarely suffered from heart or liver disease, cancer or degenerative diseases.
Dan Buettner [author of The Blue Zones, a book on longevity] recommends that you donate all the large plates in your kitchen and replace them with smaller plates. This will automatically reduce calorie intake by 30 per cent at least at dinner times.
Eating locally produced organic food is an added advantage. Sardinians swear by red wine as one of the aids to defy ageing, given that red wine is rich in antioxidants, it might as well be true. Drinking enough pure water through the day is also an important part of keeping cells healthy. Herbs and spices like turmeric, ginger, garlic, and pepper have several disease-preventing properties that one could benefit from.
Here are some foods that will help you lead a long healthy life:
Whole grains reduce risk of heart disease, diabetes, obesity and some cancers [whole wheat flour, ragi, oatmeal, jowar, bajra, cracked wheat, buckwheat, and cornmeal]
Calcium-rich dairy foods prevent osteoporosis [low-fat milk, dahi, low-fat paneer, and cheese]
Protein from beans and lean meats result in stronger muscles and improved metabolism [dried beans, nuts, and fish]
Fruits provide antioxidants and a variety of vitamins [choose a variety of colours]
Vegetables help reduce the risk of some chronic diseases by providing vital nutrients [green leafy, orange coloured and starchy vegetables].
Grow older, think sharper
Age brings along senility, memory loss, and Alzheimer’s. These can be delayed or prevented altogether. Daily brain workouts like puzzles, chess and sudoku, and a diet rich in essential amino acids, omega-3 and vitamins ensure that you have a razor sharp brain for many years to come.
The following list of foods will keep your brain buzzing for long:
Omega-3 rich fish: Salmon, mackerel and sardines
Nuts and seeds: They are rich in omega-3 and protein
Antioxidant-rich foods: Berries and green tea [2 cups a day]
Choline-rich food: Cruciferous vegetables [cabbage, cauliflower, broccoli], eggs, peanuts, and rajma
Monounsaturated fats: Olive oil, peanuts, sesame oil, flaxseeds and fish oil
Microalgae: Spirulina and seaweed.
Beat stress, live lighter
Follow these simple steps to de-stress
Bond with family and friends
Cut out stimulants like caffeine
Cultivate a hobby and join a hobby group
De-clutter with a passion. Give away anything that you haven’t used for six months
Keep free slots in your daily planner for relaxation, or doing what makes you happy, including doing nothing
Laugh like a child
Give importance to a good night’s sleep
Get a pet. A pet dog can bring you much happiness.
To live a long life full of vitality, you can start at any point, making small changes one at a time to improve for the better. Pursue longevity with a passion, and you will realise that it is not some elusive Holy Grail, but something very much attainable.

EAT MORE SUGAR…AND FIND YOURSELF LOOK OLDER

How dangerous liberal intake of sugar is already well known among health-conscious people. Diabetes type 2,obesity, bla bla bla and the list goes on. Yeah right, the list goes on. Now, it’s for youto reconsider how much sugar you’re gonna eat today..However, sugar has another VERY unwanted side-effect – it makes you look old before your time!
That’s according to Yahoo’s ‘Skin Guru’ Dr. Leslie Bauman.
I’m no expert in skin care, but I think the explanation is fairly easy to understand. She says…
“Sugar triggers a natural process called glycation, which is the same chemical reaction that turns meat brown when you cook it. The sugars bind with tissues to form harmful molecules, called advanced glycation end products (ironically known as AGEs), which damage elastin and collagen — two substances your skin needs to stay supple and elastic. AGEs also damage the kidneys, brain and other essential organs.”
So it would appear that a high-sugar intake damages elastin and collagen – that’s bad news.
It’s humorous, but also tragic, to watch television commercials marketed at women. One advert will sell the latest must-have skin cream to ‘Defy Aging‘. This is followed by an ad for the latest low-fat ice cream, low-fat cereal bar, low-fat chocolate bars (and on and on and on…..) – all LOADED with sugar.
Their message is clear: Keep your skin looking young with miracle creams, AND, easily control your weight with low-fat, and therefore healthy, products – yeah right!
The unsuspecting female population remains unaware that the 2 advertised products are actually working AGAINST each other.
Not that this only affects women. We live in a time where it’s OK for men to care about how they look, watch what they eat, and even use some cosmetic products if they wish. Aren’t we? It isn’t just me, is it? .
Anyway, Dr.Baumann goes on to say..
“And it’s not just the obvious culprits, like soda and candy, that cause damage; other foods with a high glycemic index, like white bread, pasta and potatoes also cause the formation of AGEs, because they are quickly converted to sugar in the bloodstream.”
I think the REAL message is this: get on a healthy diet that stabilizes your blood sugar – and do it as soon as possible! You’ll:
Be leaner
Have more energy
Have a better lipid profile
Stay looking younger for longer…
…to name but a few. If you don’t enjoy low-carb diets, a low Glycemic Load diet is what you need

LET'S LIVE LONGER

Work out, stay fitter
Regular exercise keeps the heart ticking, prevents Type-2 diabetes, maintains and builds muscle mass, keeps up energy levels, and also elevates mood in a big way. It has been found that moderate low-impact exercise is the best solution to a long life. Small lifestyle changes like walking/cycling to your nearby destinations for chores, taking stairs, doing household chores, and gardening can go a long way towards prolonging your life. This is what Buettner calls “deconveniencing your home”!
Gardening is one of the few ways of getting exercise in a pleasurable way. It helps develop a nurturing attitude towards nature. Plus, being out in the sun gives a good dose of vitamin D. The benefit of reaping fresh produce from your own garden is quite unbeatable.
Yoga has been propounded as a tool for longevity since centuries. It is low on impact, but high on strengthening the muscles and ligaments, leading to more flexibility as we age. A loss of muscle mass, accompanied by a gain in fat mass, occurs with ageing. Yoga is great for longevity because it strengthens the muscles and ligaments that surround bones and joints without putting pressure on them. Movements become more fluid and less stiff overtime.
T’ai Chi, the Chinese art of choreographed meditative exercises, has been around for centuries. It is not only enjoyable, but also can be performed at any age. When practised for 30 minutes, thrice a week, it helps improve energy and balance, strengthen immunity, reduce stress, better sleep, and keep the body flexible.
Eat better, live longer
There’s plenty of truth in this old adage — “We dig our graves with our teeth.” We are what we eat, so it is no surprise that our diet plays a vital role in how we age. A research done on the centenarians in Japan and China revealed that they ate mostly fish, vegetables, mushrooms, seaweed, corn, buckwheat, and hardly any meat. Scientists have proven the health benefits of eating a plant-rich, meat-free diet. These geriatrics rarely suffered from heart or liver disease, cancer or degenerative diseases.
Dan Buettner [author of The Blue Zones, a book on longevity] recommends that you donate all the large plates in your kitchen and replace them with smaller plates. This will automatically reduce calorie intake by 30 per cent at least at dinner times.
Eating locally produced organic food is an added advantage. Sardinians swear by red wine as one of the aids to defy ageing, given that red wine is rich in antioxidants, it might as well be true. Drinking enough pure water through the day is also an important part of keeping cells healthy. Herbs and spices like turmeric, ginger, garlic, and pepper have several disease-preventing properties that one could benefit from.
Here are some foods that will help you lead a long healthy life:
Whole grains reduce risk of heart disease, diabetes, obesity and some cancers [whole wheat flour, ragi, oatmeal, jowar, bajra, cracked wheat, buckwheat, and cornmeal]
Calcium-rich dairy foods prevent osteoporosis [low-fat milk, dahi, low-fat paneer, and cheese]
Protein from beans and lean meats result in stronger muscles and improved metabolism [dried beans, nuts, and fish]
Fruits provide antioxidants and a variety of vitamins [choose a variety of colours]
Vegetables help reduce the risk of some chronic diseases by providing vital nutrients [green leafy, orange coloured and starchy vegetables].
Grow older, think sharper
Age brings along senility, memory loss, and Alzheimer’s. These can be delayed or prevented altogether. Daily brain workouts like puzzles, chess and sudoku, and a diet rich in essential amino acids, omega-3 and vitamins ensure that you have a razor sharp brain for many years to come.
The following list of foods will keep your brain buzzing for long:
Omega-3 rich fish: Salmon, mackerel and sardines
Nuts and seeds: They are rich in omega-3 and protein
Antioxidant-rich foods: Berries and green tea [2 cups a day]
Choline-rich food: Cruciferous vegetables [cabbage, cauliflower, broccoli], eggs, peanuts, and rajma
Monounsaturated fats: Olive oil, peanuts, sesame oil, flaxseeds and fish oil
Microalgae: Spirulina and seaweed.
Beat stress, live lighter
Follow these simple steps to de-stress
Bond with family and friends
Cut out stimulants like caffeine
Cultivate a hobby and join a hobby group
De-clutter with a passion. Give away anything that you haven’t used for six months
Keep free slots in your daily planner for relaxation, or doing what makes you happy, including doing nothing
Laugh like a child
Give importance to a good night’s sleep
Get a pet. A pet dog can bring you much happiness.
To live a long life full of vitality, you can start at any point, making small changes one at a time to improve for the better. Pursue longevity with a passion, and you will realise that it is not some elusive Holy Grail, but something very much attainable.

INDONESIA,KEEP IT UP!!!

Hopefully it comes as no great surprise to you that deforestation is a major problem in many areas of the world, both it terms of preserving biodiversity and preventing climate change — some countries are chopping down their forests at astonishing rates. But what you may not know is which nations really have the highest rates of deforestation, so here they are:
When considering all these, for sake of comparison, even though Brazil gets a lot of the heat for Amazonian deforestation — and rightly so, considering the total area of land cleared — as a percentage of landmass cleared it isn’t even in the the top twenty. Over the past twenty years or so the deforestation rate has been 8% and over 70% of historic forest cover remains.
NOTE: All the data in this post has been derived from the truly informative and well presented Google Earth layer on deforestation, created by David Tryse, which draws its data from the World Resources Institute and Greenpeace. All percentages refer to the years 1990-2005.
1) Honduras: -37%Historically Honduras was pretty much entirely covered by trees, with half a percent of the land not forested. Today about half of that remains (52%), with just about 16% existing in a frontier forest state. Between 1990-2005, Honduras saw a decline of 37% in its forest cover.
2) Nigeria: -36%About half the land in Nigeria used to be covered in trees. Today all but about 10% of those have been chopped down, and less than one percent exist as frontier forest. Nigeria has removed 36% of its trees in the past two decades.
3) The Philippines: -32%The islands that make up the Philippines used to be all forested. Today only 35% of those forests remain; the only (slightly) good news in that is about 28% remain as frontier forest. But with a deforestation rate over the past twenty or so years of 26%, the future isn’t so bright.
) Benin: -31%Benin didn’t start out with great amounts of forest cover — only about 16% of the land used to be forested — and a high deforestation rate of 31% doesn’t help preserve what remains. Less than 4% of those original forests remain, and none in a frontier forest state.
5) Ghana: -28%At one point about two-thirds of Ghana was covered with forest; now, less than 10% of that forest cover remains and none as frontier forest. At a rate of decline since 1990 of 28%, that remaining forest doesn’t stand a chance without better forestry practices.
6) Indonesia: -26%Indonesia is a strange case. Like much of Southeast Asia it was historically entirely covered in forest, and over the whole nation some 65% of that forest cover remains, with about 29% in a frontier forest condition. But it’s seen a serious decline in that forest cover over the past two decades which doesn’t show signs of letting up.
It’s also an amazingly large country, and there are local conditions that get minimized in the stats. For example, on Borneo (the world’s third largest island) between 1985-2000 more logs were felled than in all of South America and Africa combined. Half of the lowland forest is currently gone and that could increase to two-thirds in just ten years.
7) Nepal & North Korea: -25%Nepal has about 22% of its original forest cover remaining, non of which is considered frontier forest — the past two decades saw a 25% decline in forest cover.
At one point nearly all of North Korea was forested, but today about 61% of that has been cleared — the change in forest cover since 1990 has been a decline of about 25%.
9) Ecuador & Haiti: -22%Rounding out the bottom of the top, as it were, are Ecuador, Liberia, and Haiti, all of which have witnessed 22% declines in forest cover since 1990.
Ecuador was originally largely forested, but today has about two-thirds of that forest cover remaining. The comparatively good news is that about 37% of that is frontier forest.
The bad news about Haiti is that it has had a 22% decline in forest cover in the past twenty years. The even worse news is that Haiti has already cleared all but a fraction of a percent of it’s original forest, 99.2% to be exact. Here’s the symbol par excellence of what happens when you have horrendous forestry practice.

INDONESIA,KEEP IT UP!!!

Hopefully it comes as no great surprise to you that deforestation is a major problem in many areas of the world, both it terms of preserving biodiversity and preventing climate change — some countries are chopping down their forests at astonishing rates. But what you may not know is which nations really have the highest rates of deforestation, so here they are:
When considering all these, for sake of comparison, even though Brazil gets a lot of the heat for Amazonian deforestation — and rightly so, considering the total area of land cleared — as a percentage of landmass cleared it isn’t even in the the top twenty. Over the past twenty years or so the deforestation rate has been 8% and over 70% of historic forest cover remains.
NOTE: All the data in this post has been derived from the truly informative and well presented Google Earth layer on deforestation, created by David Tryse, which draws its data from the World Resources Institute and Greenpeace. All percentages refer to the years 1990-2005.
1) Honduras: -37%Historically Honduras was pretty much entirely covered by trees, with half a percent of the land not forested. Today about half of that remains (52%), with just about 16% existing in a frontier forest state. Between 1990-2005, Honduras saw a decline of 37% in its forest cover.
2) Nigeria: -36%About half the land in Nigeria used to be covered in trees. Today all but about 10% of those have been chopped down, and less than one percent exist as frontier forest. Nigeria has removed 36% of its trees in the past two decades.
3) The Philippines: -32%The islands that make up the Philippines used to be all forested. Today only 35% of those forests remain; the only (slightly) good news in that is about 28% remain as frontier forest. But with a deforestation rate over the past twenty or so years of 26%, the future isn’t so bright.
) Benin: -31%Benin didn’t start out with great amounts of forest cover — only about 16% of the land used to be forested — and a high deforestation rate of 31% doesn’t help preserve what remains. Less than 4% of those original forests remain, and none in a frontier forest state.
5) Ghana: -28%At one point about two-thirds of Ghana was covered with forest; now, less than 10% of that forest cover remains and none as frontier forest. At a rate of decline since 1990 of 28%, that remaining forest doesn’t stand a chance without better forestry practices.
6) Indonesia: -26%Indonesia is a strange case. Like much of Southeast Asia it was historically entirely covered in forest, and over the whole nation some 65% of that forest cover remains, with about 29% in a frontier forest condition. But it’s seen a serious decline in that forest cover over the past two decades which doesn’t show signs of letting up.
It’s also an amazingly large country, and there are local conditions that get minimized in the stats. For example, on Borneo (the world’s third largest island) between 1985-2000 more logs were felled than in all of South America and Africa combined. Half of the lowland forest is currently gone and that could increase to two-thirds in just ten years.
7) Nepal & North Korea: -25%Nepal has about 22% of its original forest cover remaining, non of which is considered frontier forest — the past two decades saw a 25% decline in forest cover.
At one point nearly all of North Korea was forested, but today about 61% of that has been cleared — the change in forest cover since 1990 has been a decline of about 25%.
9) Ecuador & Haiti: -22%Rounding out the bottom of the top, as it were, are Ecuador, Liberia, and Haiti, all of which have witnessed 22% declines in forest cover since 1990.
Ecuador was originally largely forested, but today has about two-thirds of that forest cover remaining. The comparatively good news is that about 37% of that is frontier forest.
The bad news about Haiti is that it has had a 22% decline in forest cover in the past twenty years. The even worse news is that Haiti has already cleared all but a fraction of a percent of it’s original forest, 99.2% to be exact. Here’s the symbol par excellence of what happens when you have horrendous forestry practice.

LISTENING: SOMETHING THAT MAKES A BETTER PERSON

Les Giblin stated in The Art of Dealing with People:”Oilver Wendell Holmes once said being able to listen to others in a sympathetic and understanding manner is perhaps the most effective mechanism to have a better interpersonal relationship and a better friendship”.
Listening makes you smart!
Contrary to popular opinion that we have to speak to show we’re smart, listening in fact may cause the same effect. Sometimes I let myself silent and listen to others’ opinions, complaints, and then I find myself a wiser person. Yeah, it’s true…When pals of mine tell some bad experiences they had, I tried to soothe them, comfort them, and by this, I tried to overlook the downside of the matters. Turns out the problems weren’t that bad….So listening really teaches me sensitivity and wisdom and of course the art of positive thinking.
People will say what they want so long as you’re available for them
Two-way human interaction is the best type of interaction. So don’t let you deaf to what others people want you to know. Sit together, sip some tea or coffee, listen and respond properly. It works most of the time.
Talking too much is a self-suicidal act
Successful people are skillful at making others talk and reveal their opinion and thinking. Speak moderately. Sometimes it’s better for you to keep silent a while, let our partner spill everything s/he wants and there’s some point where you can respond wisely.
Self-absorbed people tend to have less friends
I know some people in my social life who seem to have no close friends. As I tried to find out why by talking to them in person, I instantly knew they’re such a self-absorbed person. They gave me a little amount of chance to speak, they’re relentlessly rambling about their achievements, in a seemingly very proud manner…They tried hard to impress other interlocutors, they kept talking about something boring, their own personal experience everyone else can’t even grasp or ever had…Talk and get laid back, you’ll get more than what you expect.
Know what they want, what they need, who they are, and you’ll be able to communicate effectively
Listening to someone while s/he’s talking is simply an appreciation of their existence. When you’re listening to what they speak, they feel like they’re an important person. Remember, most of us are glad to get other people’s attention and appreciation.

LISTENING: SOMETHING THAT MAKES A BETTER PERSON

Les Giblin stated in The Art of Dealing with People:”Oilver Wendell Holmes once said being able to listen to others in a sympathetic and understanding manner is perhaps the most effective mechanism to have a better interpersonal relationship and a better friendship”.
Listening makes you smart!
Contrary to popular opinion that we have to speak to show we’re smart, listening in fact may cause the same effect. Sometimes I let myself silent and listen to others’ opinions, complaints, and then I find myself a wiser person. Yeah, it’s true…When pals of mine tell some bad experiences they had, I tried to soothe them, comfort them, and by this, I tried to overlook the downside of the matters. Turns out the problems weren’t that bad….So listening really teaches me sensitivity and wisdom and of course the art of positive thinking.
People will say what they want so long as you’re available for them
Two-way human interaction is the best type of interaction. So don’t let you deaf to what others people want you to know. Sit together, sip some tea or coffee, listen and respond properly. It works most of the time.
Talking too much is a self-suicidal act
Successful people are skillful at making others talk and reveal their opinion and thinking. Speak moderately. Sometimes it’s better for you to keep silent a while, let our partner spill everything s/he wants and there’s some point where you can respond wisely.
Self-absorbed people tend to have less friends
I know some people in my social life who seem to have no close friends. As I tried to find out why by talking to them in person, I instantly knew they’re such a self-absorbed person. They gave me a little amount of chance to speak, they’re relentlessly rambling about their achievements, in a seemingly very proud manner…They tried hard to impress other interlocutors, they kept talking about something boring, their own personal experience everyone else can’t even grasp or ever had…Talk and get laid back, you’ll get more than what you expect.
Know what they want, what they need, who they are, and you’ll be able to communicate effectively
Listening to someone while s/he’s talking is simply an appreciation of their existence. When you’re listening to what they speak, they feel like they’re an important person. Remember, most of us are glad to get other people’s attention and appreciation.

I DON'T REALLY LIKE NATURAL SCIENCES AND NEITHER DO INDONESIAN STUDENTS NOWADAYS….

“Govt to attract students to natural sciences” is the huge headline on The Jakarta Post a couple of days ago, which dragged me to my past memory. I preferred English Literature to exact,or natural science.
First of all, all my family members and relatives are not farmers, fishermen,or people related to any jobs requiring them to study or learn how to fish well, plant well, breed cattle well. So i don’t really have any background or even wild imagination of earning my living as one of those. Therefore, I suppose it’s a kind of cultural and mindset hindrance. How can Indonesia be a modern maritime,agricultural country while the parents don’t really endorse the proud of being a maritime, agricultural country to their kids? Indeed, Indonesian still think that such jobs aren’t quite prestigious. Most of them (and my dad isn’t an exception) have a stance that having a job or getting a job as a govt civil servant is the best, as it is the safest, most financially guaranteed job. You get paid monthly, at a regular interval, without even having to think what to do something innovative, to create something new, to think creatively, which these people only consider as ‘difficulty’. You just obey the rules, do what your superior tells to you to do, and that’s it. But for some others, the difficulty may be viewed as ‘challenge’, ‘opportunity’.
The universities try to tackle this by offering scholarships (like what the University of Indonesia’s rector stated), changing the name of the subject into something more interesting (which sounds quite shallow and silly to me!), incorporating the natural sciences with other sciences to respond to the job market’s demand, and giving grants to the existing natural science departments to develop or improve the infrastructure and overall quality.