How Smoking Writers Quit Smoking Successfully

Creative people and caffeine and tobacco are like a trio.

When I was working at an advertising agency, I came to learn this fact the hard way. With me as an exception, everyone in the office is a smoker and coffee drinker. Even the female coworkers. Even the female coworker who just had a baby and then was breastfeeding it. I judgmentally questioned her motherhood moral and conscience. What a workplace!

Traumatized by this, I then quit working there and changed my workplace. I was appalled by how much smoke and fumes I had to inhale on working days, giving me a shiver everytime I saw them.

As a writer myself, I have never drawn inspiration from smoke or cigars or cigarettes or any tobacco products. Even the overly-hyped vape!

I am not fueled by those things while writing. I am fueled by fresh water, whole foods and ample night sleep and serenity.

So is it really necessary that writers must smoke?

Two of my favorite writers don’t seem to agree. Even in their professional journey as authors, they can stop smoking totally. And by making the decision, they are even more productive.

David Sedaris has a rather unique story of quitting because he did not quit smoking because of himself. It’s more because the Ritz Carlton staffers who prohibit smoking in all of their establishments. He told NPR that his mother’s tobacco-related death and being shown a lung of a heavy smoker did not change his mind about smoking but once he found out that he can never smoke while spending nights at any Ritz Carlton hotel is a shocking reason to pick from a lot of more logical ones.

Haruki Murakami in his running memoir “What I Talk about When I Talk about Running” said after he sold his club and established a more steady income from writing, he then radically changed his lifestyle.

From nocturnal to diurnal.

From unhealthy to healthy.

From sedentary to active lifestyle.

From an owl to an early riser.

Murakami saw the needs to stay fit because he is the type of person who easily gains weight if going physically inactive. And he is very grateful about this as it encourages him to stay in shape as long as he can so he can write more in life.

And he chose running because running is cheap and doable without any special equipment or infrastructure or supporting facilities. He doesn’t need a world-class jogging track. A decent lane will just do. While he started running, Murakami also gave up smoking.

“Giving up smoking is a kind of natural result from running every day. It wasn’t easy to quit. […] But the desire to run even more makes me not to go back to smoking and a great help in overcoming withdrawal symptoms. Quitting smoking is quite a symbolic gesture of farewell to the life I used to lead.”

So what’s the takeaway from these two authors’ journey to tobaccoless life?

Probably this: A combination of external interventions and some internal motivation could be of greater help for those who want to quit. (*/)

Monetizing Your English Writing Skills

(Foto: Setyo Jojo)

A writer is a reader, listener and thinker who writes.” – Akhlis Purnomo

There’s nothing better than sharing your experience with all the people around you. When it comes to experience, even sharing what seems so trivial, no-brainer, basic and little to us may mean a lot and proves insightful and inspiring to others.  So I decided to also share this with you all on my blog.

The title of the piece itself was derived from a presentation title I served in the middle of November 2017 at the English Department, Universitas Jenderal Soedirman (Unsoed). The presentation brought some nostalgic ambiance, I have to admit, as it’s been a while since the last time I taught a bunch of young folks in a classroom and it gave me quite a shiver. My teaching days were over but the urge to share can’t fade that easily. It’s embedded permanently in my DNA. Which explains why no matter how hard I try to dissuade this urge, I fail again and again miserably.

The bedroom writer

Teaching was a career path I decided to abandon after I resolved writing is the best career for the future Akhlis. This started quietly in my bedroom in 2009. One night I started blogging (armed with a brand new laptop and a CDMA phone as the modem, which worked painfully slow).

At the time, blogging was a relatively new thing. And the more I wrote for my own blog, I found it more interesting day by day. It was because of the internet marketing opportunities which were and still are limitless. It was tempting for an introverted for me to be able to make money without even seeing too many people out there. Even networking is doable via social media and email.

The idea of becoming a professional blogger sparked on my mind and I thus began blogging soon after that. I browsed the entire web days and nights to learn how to make money from my blog. By then, all I knew was Darren Rowse (with his, Brian Clark (with his, Deborah Ng (with her, and some other professional bloggers from Anglosaxon countries (Australia, the States, or the UK). I bought their ebooks and got hooked by the offers of the ease of making money with websites and content, which I can produce on daily basis because I can write in English.

But my main problem was the connection speed. My hometown was not a place where the internet providers operated the best. Their quality of service sucked a lot. They existed but gave me more frustration more than convenience. Of course, I still could exchange emails (with lots of trial because the connection might be cut off in the process) but viewing images and videos was an ordeal still at the time.

And then I stumbled upon a great blog called It was clean, simple and interesting, with high quality content that I liked a lot (I recently visited the blog but sadly it wasn’t live any longer). I somehow managed to contact its owner. He was a Malaysian internet marketer named Yan Susanto, if I’m not mistaken. He confessed to have grown up in Tasikmalaya, some town in Western Java province but then his family made a move to Malaysia and since then never came back.

That year (2009), I learned a lot about internet marketing from Yan. We chatted a lot via email and I actively asked him about the nuts and bolts of it. I suddenly found myself glued to my laptop days and nights. I wanted to buy a domain for my first personal blog (hosted by, a PayPal account, and a software. All was because I wanted to be like Yan. A financially-independent internet marketer.

In the course of that, one thing I realized was that I lacked technical skills. While it seemed that Yan was more skillful at it. His mastery of web development and SEO (search engine optimization) was impressive and I saw myself as ‘a little kid in the neighborhood’. I knew almost nothing. But Yan was willing to help me through this learning phase by giving me some guidance on how to make great quality content. He taught me on link building techniques, how to rewrite a piece of content so it looked fresh and new and unique, how to write a product review in English. He paid me as a contributor and helper of his SEO campaigns.

Things changed. From 2010 on, I launched my writing career by moving to Jakarta as an Indonesian-English translator and web content writer for an illustrious property company’s  web portal in the heart of Jakarta’s business district.  In the course of my writing career, I was given another new responsibility which was beyond my imagination. I had to see and talk to people. Real people this time. It was no people on screen just like what I did with Yan. Awesome. And from there I was officially appointed online reporter/ journalist in the company.

Along with that, I also began to learn more about social media. After I made content, the time had come for me to know how to market it on the web. So I  set up a convincing social media presence on Twitter and Facebook and Koprol (an Indonesian social media site which was then acquired by Yahoo). From time to time, I studied and practiced social media management and boy had it taught me a lot of things!

Another phase of my writing career was about to occur when in 2015 I ran into a friend working in the publishing industry. She wanted me to work with her on an English book writing project. We were working in tandem and tackling whatever issues together. I learned much from this writing gig. It was about the workflow, the researching, writing and editing process, all of which were quite different from the ones I’ve been familiar with in the web publishing industry. That was my first time to immerse myself in the book writing process.

Happening simultaneously was also the publishing of some of my pieces (columns and opinions) in the country’s big news portals (more on this, kindly go to my ‘portfolio’ article on this very blog) like and Whereas, also picked some of my pieces to be published on Koran Tempo (both are affiliated media under the same holding company).

Later on, I also managed to get published as a solo writer of my own content by working as a magazine writer. This was quite challenging because I had to be responsible for all the content of a certain edition. The content ranged from translation of English articles (as the magazine was part of global franchise network) and some authentic content I had to acquire (6 articles altogether). All these were my entire workloads to finish within only a couple of weeks (yes, two weeks only!). It was so tight a deadline.

Almost at the same time, I was also preparing another project on a different theme. This one was primarily concerned about social media.  It was rather tough as well as I had to be preparing three different sets of materials for three different government clients. In this project, I was the social media expert invited to share my 5-year experience in my previous company.

What a journey…

To the English Department students of Unsoed, I hurled a rethorical question of this.

What it takes to be a successful writer?

Here were my answers for them:

  • Passion: Passion is NOT overrated, as far as I’m concerned. It’s the fuel of your long long career journey. It’s the thing that enables you to stay on track when others start to give up, succumb and switch paths. It’s one thing in your very essence that enables you to be stubborn as you’re spearing ahead, laser-focusing your efforts towards one single career objective.
  • Discipline: This is one of the essential skills to have and nurture in a writer’s soul. Yes, writers are artists working with words but that doesn’t mean you can get lazy with your work. Set up your own schedule if you have no employer (act as your own employer!) and stick to it. And discipline makes you a better writer working in a team. Or else, you can be much hated because of your insanely awful attitude, believing you can only work when inspiration comes along. No, a professional writer doesn’t wait for inspiration. S/he builds one, instead.
  • Focus: You may be working at a cafe or office or your own bedroom. Space is no big deal as long as you can focus on your work and get it all done on time. There’s no use to splurge on an expensive beverage but you miss your deadline and enrage your editor after that.
  • Tenacity: Writers at times must be tenacious. Surely it feels like you’re banging your head onto the solid brick wall until you bleed and unconscious. But one really has to be that strong-willed to be a writer.
  • Carefulness: Select your words, punctuations, characters carefully as these may determine your success and failure.
  • Attention to details: Again, small things matter. Remember, small successes accumulate and build up your bigger successes. At least, that’s what I believe and really happened to me (though luck and serendipity also did contribute – in an unreliable amount though). Of course, some people argue that a few writers don’t pay attention to details that much and yet they achieve magnificent attainment but believe me, they must have something else to compensate for that ‘flaw’.

The perks of a writer

Speaking of perks of working as a writer, there’re myriad. And these are some of the best that I think you ought to consider.

Ultra flexibility

The best perk as a writer is the flexibility. For a free soul going after inspirations, there’s nothing better than being able to move around  or stay at a certain spot as you like (as long as you can immediately meet those deadlines). Most of the time, I don’t work at a given worksplace like any other employees or corporate workers. I can always choose to work anywhere I wish. But of course, there’re times when I need to go to a certain place to take part in a meeting with clients or teams I’m working with. Yet, these meetings can in fact happen anywhere. And as long as things are resolvable via email or online networking, we can set aside the idea of going out every single day. On a typical day of work, I can just wake up and work on my draft in my own bedroom if a day’s weather doesn’t seem so agreeable. As for me, I work at my own pace mostly and this makes me really happy. As long as deadlines are met perfectly and punctually and no client complains too much, I’m safe and sound working at a place of my choice. Being an office rat is something you no more have to endure during your productive years. You can still make money and go on with your journey.

Less social fuss

Not all writers are introverted. But most of them, I‘m sure, are. This is the first and foremost reason why I left my teaching job and resorted to writing in the first place. I can conveniently turn down any invitation to unnecessary in-person meetings and only meet people whom I feel important in project finalization.

While we have learned the brightest side of the profession, I also feel the necessity to inform you this.

The downsides of working as a writer

The price you have to pay for all the conveniences is quite high though.

Possibly long working hours

Writing – to most people out there – is likened  to typing. If you have fingers, eyes, paper, ink or something to type on and with, then chances are you can make money by writing. This is not quite right. There’re soft skills one has to acquire and master to really succeed at this realm of writing. Writing (read: the typing work) is actually easy and effortless, intellectually speaking. But what takes most time is the research (because you have to learn many topics and hence understand what you write and form your own proposition on all these subject matters). Rewriting one needs to do after writing because rewriting the first draft – which is usually awful, highly disorganized and thus hardly understandable to readers other than the writer herself – is inevitable unless a writer has hired and teamed up with a very very competent (and patient and kind-hearted and soft-mouthed) editor with much free time to lend a hand to perfect the draft.

The emotional turbulence

Emotion is also a noteworthy point. I mean the movement of your writing spirit may fluctuate from time to time. There’re ups and downs along the way. One day it can really overwhelm you until you can’t stop jotting down all the ideas on your mind. But there’re also days when ideas don’t flow as easily as usually. You drag yourself while writing, as if you were crossing through a desert as vast as Gobi and Sahara Desert combined.

Sedentary lifestyle

Another major issue I have to deal with as a writer is the sedentary lifestyle, which is destructive in the long run towards your wellbeing in general. Some writers find themselves gain weight more easily and as the writing career progressing, the worse their obesity issue is getting. I’m not going to preach about the peril of adopting the lifestyle of George R. R. Martin who needs to pay more attention to his ideal weight for the sake of his health or Lee Child who smokes and works till late at night and never feels remorse for that. In this aspect, I prefer adopting Haruki Murakami’s approach to the unhealthy and sedentary lifestyle of writers by breaking the vicious circle of disapproving habits such as smoking and eating junk foods on daily basis and setting up a daily discipline of resting and working which is in accordance with the circadian rhythm of our body (the natural rhythm of how our body works and takes rest). After a few years in his twenties running a night club, he realized it was impossible for him to keep up with the demand of writing if his lifestyle remained similar. He sold the club and quit waking up so late before noon and started to wake up and go to bed earlier than he used to. And guess what? He began regaining his health and productivity. And at the very same time, he shed all those extra fats by taking up running as his main workout regime. He succeeded after all. Thank God, yoga came along and since the very first time I gave yoga a try, I slowly but certainly reclaimed my long-lost physical health (and mostly strength and later, flexibility) and then my peace of mind (which is really essential because writing is an intellectual and cerebral toil). Meditation, which is one part of the yoga practice, proves to be quite useful to counterbalance the bad effects of perpetual mental work which I do during the writing process.

Let’s say you’re interested in this kind of career. You may ask:

What writing skills that are in high demand currently?”

Many. But in essence, there’re three of them:

1. Web content

2. Business writing

3. Creative writing

For all the hopefuls out there, learning how to write well may lead you to many career paths. It’s not confined to writing books or articles in magazines. Modern professions for writers among other things are:

Content writers (websites)

This is the entry-level job mostly opened for fresh graduates. But even if you’re still students, employers don’t mind your lack of work experience or academic credentials. A few of them are even opening jobs like this for high school or vocational school graduates. They just need – as it may seem – the ability of typing and arranging words in your mother tongue (obviously this is a simple and much less intellectually demanding job) and publish it every day. Grammar and punctuation and flow of ideas might not be a big deal here. The focus is getting messages across to audience. These are like sweat shop workers in the modern era. The difference is that they don’t produce cheap goods sold with super pricey price tags. Rather, they generate an enormous amount of content at a speed of light because readers must be attracted and then spoonfed with novel, fresh, easily digested, interesting and visually pleasant content that cater their reading taste (or what content publishers guess is their reading taste) as often as possible. This is because pageviews is the ultimate goal for most online media business owners. More pageviews, more visitors, more advertisers and hence more income. It’s all about bottomline. Profits and money.

Copywriters (media/ agencies)

Being more lucrative than the content writing industry, copywriting is quite challenging even for middle-level writers and veterans. This is because generating copies for companies need a long learning curve. The stamina and concentration must be maintained along the process because it’s very formal by nature (therefore there’s no excuse for fatal typos) and contains sensitive data and information to convey to their valued shareholders and stakeholders. What you need to bear in mind is how to bring positivity and good images to readers even when the real situation is far from positive. I’m not saying you act as a spin doctor here but you have to know how to convey facts without evoking undesired reactions from the market and public. When a company books an outstandingly high profit, you have to find words to convey the message humbly so your wordings don’t attract too much attention from ‘nosy’ bureaucracy. But on another occasion, when you see a company generating a very miserable sum of profit (and even in more pathetic cases, suffered from huge financial losses owing to massive frauds or scandals), you as a copywriter must figure out a way to pick words that won’t kill that company’s image once and for all but at the same time, you can’t lie and have to tell the truth to audience. That said, it takes so many skills for someone to master to become a fully-fledged, seasoned copywriter. Not to mention a particular style one has to adopt in the writing process, and the workflows which may vary from one business to another, and workloads which get stuffed mostly in the first semester of each year (January-May is the busiest period because most business entities are to issue their annual reports by the end of May or June). Copywriters though must also be able to work in team and present their ideas well in front of potential clients (so if you’re an abnormally shy and solitary type of person, this is a job offer to refuse to accept or else you can get some heart attack in public). Once clients say yes, copywriters can move on with elaboration of the proposal. It’s highly complicated and stressful but rewarding as well.

Journalists (press companies)

Working as a journalist is another alternative to capitalize on your English writing skills. In the epoch of hoax like (cough) these days, there’s no profession as much required as a professional journalist with moral and proper journalism ethics and good work ethos. Such a species is rare and hard to find. Public wants it so much (though they also still want to read hoax – in their subconscious mind). People need truth to be told as it really is. Hoax is not tolerable at any rate whenever we are dealt with a crucial public event that not only affects our private life but also a nation and the entire human race’s future, such as a presidential election (I don’t have to elaborate on this). And however hard we educate people on the significance of identifying a hoax-spreading media outlet, it’s fruitless without looking for and recruiting the right people. And great writers are also good journalists for their readers as well. Take a look at Ernest Hemingway who worked as a war journalist during the World War I before plunging himself into the literary world or Gillian Flynn who worked for a magazine as a reporter and writer prior to being sacked and launching her own fiction writing career.

PR officers (corporations/ brands)

It may sound odd at first for a writer to work as a PR officer. But companies – small and big – need people who are competent enough to play with words, to polish their images before the public. This sort of job requires you to be skillful at writing press releases, corporate newsletters, business correspondence, dealing with media workers (journalists).

Bloggers/ social media officers

As more and more people blog these days (but fail to be fully committed to regularly keeping their blogs as well), companies also need content to attract visitors to their websites. Blogs cheer up ‘dry’ and boring corporate websites with fresh and engaging content. Social media presence is also getting more priority recently. All of this requires a separate team or at least a couple of people to handle (depending on how seriously a company takes their image).


If you happen to know a lot of important and influential people with abundant ideas and great track records around you and they don’t have any books (print or electronic) to sell their ideas yet, you can help them do so by working as their ghostwriter. Let them know you can write and show them your portfolio (samples of your writing, which can be in the electronic or physical/ printed form). Once again, you may find your clients by chance as you tell people you’re a writer and simultaneously broaden your network. I canNOT stress more on the importance of having a wide network. It’s as important as your fingers to scribble and type.

Travel writers

Leisure economy is in the rise. Everyone is following the trend. Tourism growth is soaring. The majority of tourists is of course travelers who just take photos to publish on their Instagram feeds as they sightsee tourist attractions around the globe. But there’re also very few of them with some writing and photography  (and maybe videography) talent and seem very keen to capitalize on their traveling lifestyle. They succeed as influencers in this newly-invented domain. And you can also be one of them. The qualities of great travelwriters, as far as I know, are many but the most fundamental ones are details (meaning you need to take notes on almost every detail of a trip you take), consistency (you can’t succeed if you just post once and wish you’ll be famous overnight), and financial stability (most of tools to make a high quality travel writing piece are NOT cheap at all).

Fiction writers (novelists)

Fiction writing is of course lucrative – if you’re J. K. Rowling. I’m sorry to wake you up from this dream, but it doesn’t work that way AT FIRST. As a beginner in the fiction writing industry, you might have to expose yourselves to a lot of people out there and make as many works as you can to be known. And if you’re talented and lucky enough, someone will help you get a book deal which leads you to a publication. But it’s a long long process to undergo from anonimity to fame. No one knows the recipe or formula to be a successful novelist. What you can discover is only assumptions, clever guess or data-driven speculation (like this blogpost I wrote).

Practice 1 (15 minutes)

Find a news item, or pick an event that interests you. Using the ‘who, what, when, where, why’ of the item – and your imagination – rewrite it as a detailed, interesting narrative story consisting of around 300-400 words. Post it on your Facebook wall afterwards. See how people react to it. More reactions (likes and comments) may mean your writing is more successful to attract readers.

How to monetize your English writing skills

Finally, we arrive to this section! You’ve gone a long way. And I admit I’ve never written a blogpost this lengthy. Here’s the formula that I’ve extracted from my 8-year experience as a writer.

  1. Publish a blog and update regularly: This is even more important for novices. Because setting up a blog is relatively easy and cheap these days. If you have no money to spend on renting a domain and to host your own blog, why not setting up one on some popular free blogging platforms like or Or if you want more exposure and recognition, go to or Both are citizen journalism sites where you can upload your writing for free.
  2. Build a strong personal brand as a professional writer: Being a writer means you’re more careful with words and always attentive to your language. On social media, try to present yourselves as a thought leader or social media darling. I’m not saying you must be fake but instead of exposing your personal sides that don’t support your writing pursuit, try to reveal the writer side of yours to the world. After all, this is the best way to convince people that you’re seriously into writing.
  3. Write where the money is: At first, as a novice you can write for free but as you go along on your career path, writing for free should no longer be an option (unless you’re willing to). Give yourselves sometimes to get exposed and then be professional about your craft. Charging a certain amount of money for your hard work is not cruel because everybody DOES!
  4. Build networks with publishers, fellow writers, editors around the world: Facebook and Twitter can be a good start. But for more serious gigs and job offers, I recommend that you go to It’s more professional and you’re less likely to find any distractions like what you find in other social media.
  5. Find opportunities on the web: There’re a zillion of opportunities in the web if you’re willing to surf and believe me, you’ll never run out of writing gigs or job offers.

Practice 2 (15 minutes)

Write a 400-word blog post (the theme is up to you) on your own blog and promote it on your social media accounts. See how your friends or followers react to it.

To conclude the post, I’ll describe my typical daily writing process as follows:

  • Writing freely in a personal journal: A warmup ritual for me in the morning or at anytime I want to. Writing skills are like muscles. Use or lose them!
  • Reading/ observing anything, anyone I like (and don’t): Open your eyes, hear things, feel more, think more and take notes more.
  • Writing as a professional: This time of the day I work on my project.
  • Getting my behind off the chair: Work out even if you think you don’t have to. Writers must live long enough to write.
  • Hydrating: Drink more water or juice. No soda or softdrink, please.
  • Nourishing: Stuff yourselves with healthy foods and drinks. Snacks are okay but limited and occasional.
  • Taking a rest: Close your eyes and go to bed. Stop seeing computer screens if your eyes get uncomfortably dry.

Last but not least…

  • Fake it till you make it: Don’t lie but give impression that you’re serious and professional. And walk the talk.
  • You’re what you do: You’re called a writer because you write every single day in your life. Do it now!
  • Mind the deadlines: Never miss a deadline. But if you do have to, make sure you have a very very strong reason (such as maintaining the quality of result).
  • Reread and rewrite: Polish your works until they gleam with perfection.
  • Educate yourself: Read and read and read. Feed your thought with great quality stuff. Don’t read hoax! (*)

Kutipan-kutipan Paling Berbobot dari Novel 1Q84 Karya Haruki Murakami (4)

“I am who I am, no matter who or what I am connected with – or not connected with.” – p 900

“But I found that the longer you teach, the more you feel like a total stranger to yourself.”- p 905

“Once you have achieved something so magnificent, you have to be content with it.”- p 909

“Knowledge and ability were tools, not things to show off.” – P914

“Blood had a frighteningly long memory.” – p919

“Ever since she could remember, she had always hated this thing called God. More precisely, she rejected the people and the system that intervened between her and God. For years she had equated those people and that system with God. Hating them meant hating God. (…) They preached about God’s kindness, but preached twice as much about his wrath and intolerance.” – p928

“Writers have to keep on writing if they want to mature, like caterpillars endlessly chewing on leaves.”- p946

“People need routines. It’s like a theme in music. But it also restricts your thoughts and actions and limits your freedom. It structures your priorities and in some cases distorts your logic.” – p 972

“If you do the same things everyone else does, in the same way, then you’re no professional.” – p 973

“There are lots of things ordinary people can do that I can’t. (…) On the other hand, there are a few things I can do that most other people can’t. And I do these few things very, very well. I’m not expecting applause or for people to shower me with coins. But I do need to show the world what I’m capable of.”- p 1005

“Life might just be an absurd, even crude, chain of events and nothing more.” – p 1048

“‘Your father must have really liked his job. Going around collecting NHK subscription fees.’
‘I don’t think it’s a question of liking or disliking it,” Tengo said.
‘Then what?’
‘It was the one thing he was best at.'” – p 1054

“That was his basic way of thinking. Principles and logic didn’t give birth to reality. Reality came first, and the principles and logic followed.”- p1056

“‘Cold or Not, God Is Present,'”- P1090

“If we die today, we do not have to die tomorrow, so let us look to the best in each other.” – p1091

“Good – that’s what’s most important, he thought. Everyone’s death should be mourned. Even if just for a short time.” – p 1096

“A certain amount of ambition helps a person grow.” – p 1098

“But I never count on luck. That’s how I survived all these years.” – p1100

“It’s very difficult to logically explain the illogical.” – p 1104

“The things she most wanted to tell him would lose their meaning the moment she put them into words.” I p 1106

“I’m the one who decides what’s good and what’s bad – and which way we’re headed. And people had better remember that.” p 1107

“Thinking about time only seemed to slow it down.” – p 1114

“If death brings about any resolution, it’s one that only applies to the deceased.”- p1123

“Sometimes our memory betrays us.” – p 1150

On Adulthood

‎”So how old were you on your birthday last month?” Tengo asked, changing subjects.
“Twenty three. A full-fledged adult.”
“Of course,” Tengo said. He was already thirty but yet to have a sense of himself as an adult. It just felt to him like he had spent thirty years in the world. (Haruki Murakami: 1Q84, page 855)

That was Tengo’s thought as he talked to Nurse Adachi, one of the nurses taking care of his dying father in a little town’s hospital for the elderly‎.

The problem with younger people is they tend to think older ages mean more freedom‎ and booze, a privilege to break curfew.

As one gets older, however, ‎they don’t give a damn to the so-called freedom, because they learn already; with greater freedom, comes greater responsibility. And that’s the worst part of being an adult. Responsibility…

Bagaimana Menulis Membuat Anda Lebih Sehat

Menulis menurut Haruki Murakami adalah salah satu aktivitas yang kurang sehat. Ada betulnya memang. Bayangkan Anda harus duduk di sebuah kursi di dalam ruangan selama belasan jam lamanya setiap hari sampai lupa (atau melupakan) kegiatan lainnya seperti makan, minum, atau beristirahat di malam hari sesuai kebutuhan tubuh yang
sebenarnya. Itulah mengapa novelis Jepang kenamaan itu mengimbanginya dengan berolahraga lari dan berhenti merokok, sebuah kebiasaan tak sehat yang kerap kita jumpai di komunitas penulis. Sudah lumrah kita jumpai para penulis yang juga perokok dan penggemar berat kopi atau minuman berkafein yang sampai berkata,”Saya tidak bisa menemukan inspirasi tanpa rokok dan kopi.” Haruki berbeda. Ia ingin berkarya lebih lama, dan karena itu, ia harus tetap sehat dan berumur panjang. Masuk akal.

Saya tidak hendak meyakinkan Anda untuk meninggalkan kegiatan menulis dengan memberikan paragraf pembuka seperti itu. Saya hanya ingin memberikan gambaran bahwa kegiatan sebaik apapun, termasuk menulis, jika berlebihan bisa berdampak negatif pula pada kita sebagai pelakunya. Itu sudah menjadi hukum alam.

Akan tetapi, jangan cemas. Bila Anda menulis dengan mengindahkan keseimbangan dalam hidup ini, manfaatnya justru akan lebih banyak.

Menulis sendiri memiliki manfaat yang tidak hanya di dunia akademis hingga dunia profesional. Kemampuan menulis yang baik juga menjadi bagian penting dalam kemampuan berkomunikasi saat ini. Saya sendiri pernah menjumpai seseorang yang mengaku sangat kesulitan saat harus menulis di ujian akademik atau ujian masuk kerja yang mengharuskannya menulis ringkasan eksekutif atau esai singkat. Bahkan hingga dekat dengan detik-detik terakhir ujian pun, yang ada di kertas jawaban hanya beberapa baris kalimat. Belum sampai menjadi paragraf yang utuh. Padahal ia tahu ia memiliki banyak ide dan pemikiran di dalam benaknya. Cuma ia tak tahu bagaimana merangkai kata-kata itu agar layak dibaca.

Kini ada alasan kuat mengapa siapa saja harus mencoba menulis lebih sering, meski bukan penulis profesional. Ternyata aktivitas menulis yang dilakukan secara rutin dalam waktu 15-20 menit selama 3-5 kali sepanjang 4 bulan menurut sebuah studi tahun 2005 sudah bisa memberikan manfaat yang signifikan pada kesehatan fisik dan emosional para subjek studinya. Artinya, menulis secara ekspresif (menuangkan uneg-uneg dalam sebuah catatan harian atau membuat cerita fiksi, misalnya) memperbaiki suasana hati, mengurangi tingkat stres dan gejala depresi. Tidak heran J. K. Rowling pernah mengatakan ia pasti akan gila jika tidak memiliki menulis sebagai pelampiasan. Menulis, selain membuatnya kaya raya, juga membuatnya lebih waras dalam menghadapi fase-fase tersulit seperti kemiskinan dan perceraian dalam hidupnya.

Dengan menulis mengenai kejadian-kejadian emosional, penuh tekanan dan membuat kita trauma, kita akan berpeluang lebih sedikit terserang penyakit dan akan terkena lebih sedikit dampak negatif dari trauma yang pernah kita alami di masa lalu. Mereka yang menulis secara ekspresif mengenai hal-hal tersebut juga akhirnya menghabiskan lebih sedikit waktu di rumah sakit. Tekanan darah mereka lebih terkendali (tentunya dengan juga memperhatikan makanan dan minuman yang dikonsumsi) serta memiliki fungsi hati (liver) yang lebih baik daripada mereka yang tidak terbiasa menulis ekspresif.

Pada kenyataannya, menulis ekspresif (expressive writing) bisa membantu kita menyembuhkan diri dari luka fisik lebih cepat. Di tahun 2013, para peneliti dari Selandia Baru memantau pemulihan luka-luka fisik setelah prosedur biopsi yang wajib dilakukan secara medis pada 49 orang dewasa. Semua subjek penelitian ini disarankan untuk menuangkan pemikiran dan perasaan mereka dalam bentuk tulisan selama hanya 20 menit, 3 hari secara berturut-turut, 2 pekan sebelum biopsi dilakukan. Sebelas hari kemudian, 76% dari subjek studi dalam kelompok eksperimen yang menulis sebagaimana disarankan telah sembuh
sepenuhnya. Sebanyak 58% dari kelompok kontrol (yang tidak
diperintahkan menulis) belum sembuh. Studi ini menyimpulkan bahwa menulis mengenai kejadian-kejadian yang membuat para pasien tertekan membantu mereka memahami kejadian-kejadian itu dan dengan demikian membantu menurunkan tingkat stres.

Bahkan mereka yang dinyatakan menderita penyakit-penyakit tertentu bisa meningkatkan kesehatan mereka melalui menulis. Studi-studi ini menunjukkan bahwa orang yang hidup dengan asma dan meluangkan waktu untuk menulis memiliki serangan yang lebih sedikit daripada penderita asma yang tidak menulis. Para pasien AIDS yang menulis memiliki jumlah sel T yang lebih tinggi. Sel-sel T ini merupakan limfosit yang diproduksi atau diproses oleh kelenjar timus dan secara aktif berperan dalam respon kekebalan tubuh manusia. Para pasien kanker yang menulis cenderung memiliki perspektif yang lebih optimis terhadap kehidupan secara umum dan kondisi yang tengah mereka hadapi. Dari sana, kualitas hidup mereka – terlepas dari sembuh tidaknya – biasanya lebih baik.

Jadi apa yang membuat menulis baik bagi kita semua? Seorang peneliti bernama James W. Pennebaker melaksanakan riset mengenai menulis untuk menyembuhkan diri secara alami selama bertahun-tahun di University of Texas di kota Austin, AS. “Saat orang diberikan kesempatan untuk menulis mengenai gejolak emosional yang mereka alami, kesehatan mereka biasanya lebih baik,”tulis Pennebaker. “Mereka lebih jarang
berkonsultasi ke dokter. Mereka mengalami perubahan dalam fungsi kekebalan tubuh.”
Bagaimana ini bisa terjadi? Pennebaker meyakini bahwa aktivitas menulis ekspresif ini memungkinkan orang untuk rehat, mengevaluasi diri dan bagaimana mereka menjalani kehidupan ini. Alih-alih terobsesi secara tidak sehat terhadap sebuah insiden atau memori di masa lalu, kita bisa memfokuskan diri pada bagaimana bergerak maju dalam hidup. Dengan demikian, tingkat stres kita bisa menurun dan kesehatan niscaya akan membaik. Tentunya sekali lagi, dengan diiringi perbaikan gaya hidup dan cara pandang terhadap kehidupan.

Kita tidak harus menjadi novelis atau cerpenis penuh waktu, kolumnis, blogger yang setiap hari menulis demi mencari nafkah (karena menulis untuk mencari nafkah malah kerap meningkatkan kadar kortisol juga). Cukup menulis catatan harian (diari) yang Anda simpan sendiri (jika Anda termasuk orang yang tertutup) atau mengetiknya dalam dokumen dengan kata kunci agar tak seorang pun bisa membuka dan membaca curahan hati Anda.

Menulis blog juga bisa membantu. Menurut sebuah studi, disimpulkan bahwa menulis blog bisa memicu pelepasan hormon dopamin yang efeknya mirip dengan efek berlari atau mendengarkan musik kesukaan. Jangan cemas curahan hati di blog bisa dibaca orang-orang yang tidak dikehendaki karena blog juga bisa diatur sedemikian rupa agar tidak bisa dilacak Google atau dibuka orang lain kecuali Anda mengizinkan mereka masuk. Di platform-platform blogging besar seperti Blogger, WordPress, Tumblr, saya pikir ada fasilitas semacam ini. Blog bisa diatur privasinya: publik atau privat. Jika tidak mau menutup akses ke semua tulisan di blog Anda, Anda juga bisa memberikan kata kunci untuk satu artikel alias postingan tertentu yang dikehendaki agar tidak dibaca sembarangan orang. Dengan demikian, Anda bisa lebih leluasa menumpahkan perasaan dan pemikiran Anda yang berpotensi memicu konflik dengan orang lain atau membuat Anda malu jika mereka membacanya.

Pertama kali menulis, Anda tak perlu cemas dengan standar-standar yang ada. Abaikan EYD, tata bahasa dan aturan sejenisnya yang mengekang. Menulislah seperti kita berbicara pada seseorang yang Anda sangat percayai dan tidak akan membocorkan rahasia Anda. Dengan begitu, kata-kata akan mengalir seperti air.

Jadi siap menulis sekarang?

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Kutipan-kutipan Terbaik Novel 1Q84 (3)

‎”Working in an unfamiliar place, away from your daily routine, was invigorating.” (page 776‎)

“Number one on the list now was a diet book entitled Eat as Much as You Want of the Food You Love and Still Love Weight. What a great title. The whole book could be blank inside and it would still sell.”( page 776)

“But sometimes simple repetition has meaning.” (page 778)

Kutipan Paling Berkesan dari Novel Haruki Murakami '1Q84' (Jilid 2)

Kutipan terbaik di buku ini menurut saya adalah…

1.”Jika pistol muncul dalam cerita, maka harus ditembakkan. […] Maksudnya, jangan memunculkan alat yang tidak semestinya dalam cerita. Kalau pistol muncul, ya harus ditembakkan pada suatu adegan dalam cerita. Chekhov suka mengarang cerita tanpa hiasan berlebihan.” (Hal 22-23)

2. “Memang tubuh manusia dibuat sedikit banyak tidak simetris. Ketidaksimetrisan itu sendiri tidak layak dikatakan sebagai di luar kebiasaan alam. Kelopak mata kanan dan kiri Tengo sendiri sedikit berbeda bentuk. Buah pelir kirinya berposisi sedikit lebih rendah daripada buah pelir kanan. Tubuh kita bukan hasil produksi massal yang dibuat sesuai dengan standar pabrik.” (Hal 30)

3. “Lebih baik jangan mengucapkan kata-kata yang tidak perlu.” (Hal 51)

4. “Kusarankan, lebih baik jangan bidik pelipis. Menembak otak dari pelipis jauh lebih sulit daripada yang kamu kira. […]. Bagi manusia, saat kematian sangat penting. Cara lahir tidak bisa dipilih, tapi cara mati bisa dipilih.” (Hal 62)

5. “Pekerjaannya memang tidak banyak menimbulkan stres dan hasilnya cukup untuk hidup sendiri, tetapi dia sama sekali bukanlah semacam sokoguru masyarakat. Sambil mengajar di bimbel, dia menulis novel, tapi belum diterbitkan sebagai buku. […] Satu-satunya hasil kerja yang layak dibanggakan adalah menjadi ghostwriter, penulis di belakang layar, yang mengubah Kepompong Udara menjadi buku terlaris, tetapi soal itu takkan diberitahukannya kepada siapa pun walau mulutnya dibelah.” (Hal 80-81)

6. “Menulis kembali masa lalu memang tidak ada artinya, Tengo sungguh-sungguh merasa begitu. […] Walaupun masa lalunya ditulis kembali seteliti mungkin dan seantusias mungkin, situasi dirinya pada masa kini secara garis besar takkan berubah. Waktu memiliki kekuatan yang cukup besar untuk membatalkan perubahan yang dilakukan tangan manusia. (Hal 84)

7. “Seolah-olah memagari rasa kekosongan yang fatal itu, dia harus menciptakan kepribadian diri yang cerah. Tapi jika hiasan kepribadian itu dikuliti, maka yang tersisa hanya kehampaan tanpa dasar, kehampaan yang menimbulkan kehausan dahsyat belaka.” (Hal 91)

Kisah Tikus dan Kucing Vegetarian

Kebohongan kadang bukan tentang memelintir fakta tetapi memenggalnya sedemikian rupa demi keuntungan tertentu.

“Seekor tikus bertemu dengan kucing jantan besar di loteng kecil di bawah atap. Tikus itu terdesak ke pojok, tak bisa melarikan diri. Sambil gemetaran, tikus berkata,’Tuan Kucing, kumohon, jangan makan aku. Aku harus pulang ke keluargaku. Anak-anakku menunggu dengan perut ksong. Mohon biarkan aku pergi.’ Kata kucing,’Jangan khawatir. Aku takkan memakanmu. Diam-diam, sebenarnya aku ini vegetarian. Tidak makan daging sama sekali. Kamu beruntung hari ini bertemu denganku.’ Tikus berkata,’Cihuy, alangkah indahnya hari ini! Betapa beruntungnya aku bertemu dengan Tuan Kucing vegetarian!’ Tapi sebentar kemudian, kucing itu menerkam si tikus, mencengkeram badannya kuat-kuat, lalu menusukkan gigi tajam ke tenggorokannya. Dalam penderitaannya, tikus bertanya pada kucing dengan napas penghabisan,”Tapi, katamu tadi kau vegetarian, tidak makan daging sama sekali. Apa kau bohong?’ Sambil menjilati sekitar mulutnya, kucing berkata,’Tidak bohong. Aku memang tidak makan daging. Kau akan kubawa pulang dan kutukarkan dengan daun selada.” (Dikutip dari 1Q84 karya Haruki Murakami, hal 94-95)

25 Kutipan Paling Berkesan dalam Novel Haruki Murakami '1Q84' (Jilid 1)


Mengumpulkan kalimat-kalimat yang paling layak dijadikan kutipan sungguh mengasyikkan. Saya bisa menghabiskan waktu cuma untuk membaca, merunut alur pikir pengarang dan merasakan kesan setiap baris kalimat dalam pikiran dan perasaan sembari menggarisi buku semau saya (suatu sensasi yang tidak bisa digantikan dengan hanya memberi ‘bookmark’ pada halaman di layar ponsel).

Berikut kutipan dari 1Q84 jilid pertama:

“”Satu hal lagi,”kata sopir sambil memandang kaca spion. “Harap ibu ingat, segala sesuatu berbeda dari penampilannya.”” (Hal 11)

“…”Tapi jangan sampai tertipu penampilan. Kenyataan selalu ada satu.””(Hal 12)

“[…] Pengarang unggul hanya ada dua tipe. Bisa pengarang yang memiliki bakat alam untuk menulis dengan bagus atau yang berhasil menulis dengan bagus setelah berusaha mati-matian.” (Hal 28)

“[…] Suka menulis adalah kualitas yang lebih penting daripada apa pun bagi orang yang ingin menjadi pengarang.” “Tapi suka menulis saja tidak cukup.”
“Tentu. Itu saja tak cukup. Harus ada ‘sesuatu yang istimewa’. Dalam novel, lebih dari apa pun, aku mementingkan sesuatu yang tidak sepenuhnya bisa kupahami. Aku sama sekali tidak tertarik pada sesuatu yang kupahami betul.” (Hal 29)

“Ketajaman batin tidak pernah lahir dari lingkungan yang nyaman, demikian yang diyakini Komatsu.” (Hal 30)

“Baginya, mengarang itu sama seperti bernapas.” (Hal33)

“Manusia itu sulit dimengerti, pikir Tengo sungguh-sungguh.” (Hal 36)

“”[…] Aku ingin memperdaya sistem dan mengentutinya. Bukankah itu menyenangkan?”” (Hal 40)

“[…] Nah, itulah bedanya sastra dan saham. Biar bagaimanapun, dalam sastra motivasi yang melebihi uang, entah itu baik atau buruk, menggerakkan berbagai hal. […]” (Hal 45)

“”[…] Aku di sini, tapi aku tidak di sini. Aka ada di dua tempat sekaligus.”[…]” (Hal 63)

“[…] Biar bagaimanapun, bagian awal adalah bagian yang tersulit dan paling merepotkan. ” (Hal 216)

“[…] Kalau berada di pihak mayoritas yang mengucilkan, bukan pihak minoritas yang dikucilkan, siapa pun merasa lega. Oh untunglah bukan aku. […] Kalau menjadi bagian dari mayoritas, tidak perlu memikirkan banyak hal yang tidak enak. […] Tapi kalau berada di lingkungan minoritas, mungkin juga menjadi yang mampu menggunakan otak sendiri.”” (Hal 121-122)

“”Baru kali ini ada anjing German shepherd suka makan bayam.” “Dia tidak menganggap dirinya anjing biasa.”
“Dia anggap apa dirinya?”
“Sepertinya dia menganggap dirinya makhluk istimewa yang melampaui kategorisasi.” “Anjing super?”
“Barangkali.”” (Hal 129)

“Pada tanggal 20 September, lomba layang-layang yang terbesar di dunia diselenggarakan di Jakarta, dan lebih dari 10.000 peserta menerbangkan layang-layang.”(Hal 170)
Catatan: Nama Jakarta disebut dalam novel terkenal ini!

“”[…] Tetapi seperti yang pasti Anda ketahui juga, di dunia ini ada banyak orang yang menginginkan dan mencari keadaan serupa mati-otak. Hidup dalam keadaan seperti itu jauh lebih gampang. Tidak perlu susah-susah berpikir, tinggal menjalankan perintas atasan tanpa menyangkal. […]”” (Hal 202)

“”Dengan kata lain, ketika dunia kiamat, apakah rasanya seperti ketika buah pelir ditendang sekuat tenaga?”” (Hal 214)

“”Perasaan tak berdaya yang sudah menjadi kebiasaan itu merusak dan menghancurkan banyak orang.”” (Hal 220)

“Tubuh manusia adalah tempat suci. Apa pun yang disembahyangi di situ, tempat suci itu harus dipelihara agar menjadi sekuat mungkin, seindah mungkin dan sebersih mungkin.” (Hal 223)

“”Mumpung masih muda, kau harus menikmati itu. Nikmati sepuas-puasnya. Setelah menjadi tua dan tidak bisa melakukan itu lagi, kita terpaksa menghangatkan tubuh kita dengan kenangan masa lalu.”” (Hal 265)

“Biar bagaimanapun, tempatku yang sebenarnya bukan di sini, Tengo meyakinkan dirinya sendiri.” (Hal 293)

“Memang membaca novel pun merupakan sebentuk pelarian. Ketika halamannya ditutup, dia terpaksa kembali ke dunia nyata. Namun pada suatu saat, Tengo sadar bahwa ketika kembali ke dunia nyata dari dunia novel, dia tidak begtiu merasakan keputusasaan sedahsyat ketika dia kembali dari dunia matematika. Mengapa begitu? […] Di hutan cerita, betapa pun jelasnya kaitan antara segala sesuatu, takkan ada solusi pasti. Itulah bedanya dari matematika. […] Tengo kembali ke dunia nyata dengan mengantongi petunjuk itu. Petunjuk itu ibarat secarik kertas bertuliskan mantra yang tidak bisa dipahami maknanya. Kadang kala petunjuk itu tidak memiliki logika, tidak bermanfaat secara langsung dan secara nyata. Namun dalam petunjuk itu terkandung kemungkinan. Mungkin, pada suatu hari nanti, dia akan berhasil memecahkan rahasia mantra itu. Kemungkinan itu menghangatkan lubuk hati Tengo yang terdalam.” (Hal 296)

“”[…] Tetapi perasaan yang murni dan sejati adalah hal yang membahayakan juga. Bagi manusia yang hidup di dunia nyata, terlampau sulit untuk menyimpan perasaan seperti itu dalam dirinya.””(Hal 309)

“[…] Pokoknya, manusia itu sekadar kendaraan bagi gen, sekadar jalan yang dilewatinya.” (Hal 357)

“[…] Sepanjang memiliki wujud nyata yang bisa dilihat dan dipegang, tak satu pun di dunia ini yang tidak bisa dibeli dengan uang.
[…] Punya uang sebanyak apa pun, tetap ada yang tidak bisa dibeli, pikir Aomame. Misalnya, bulan.” (Hal 409)

“[…] Yang paling diinginkan Tengo hanyalah waktu yang tenang dan bebas. […] Berkenalan dengan wanita seusianya, jatuh cinta, berhubungan seks dan dibebani tanggung jawab yang tidak dapat dihindarkannya dari hubungan itu – proses semacam itu tidak diminatinya. Tahap-tahap psikologis yang harus dilalui, isyarat tentang kemungkinan, bentrokan pendapat yang tak terhindarkan… Tengo berharap tidak terbebani oleh rangkaian kerepotan semacam itu.
Konsep kewajiban selalu membuat Tengo takut dan berusaha menjauhinya.” (Hal 420)

Filosofi Kaleng Biskuit ala Midori Kobayashi


“Di dalam kaleng biskuit itu ada bermacam-macam biskuit, ada yang kamu sukai ada pula yang tidak kamu suka. Dan kalau terus memakan yang kamu suka, yang tersisa hanya yang tidak kamu suka. Setiap mengalami sesuatu yang menyedihkan aku selalu berpikir seperti itu. Kalau yang ini sudah kulewati, nanti akan datang yang menyenangkan, begitu. Karena itu hidup ini seperti kaleng biskuit.”
“Ya boleh disebut satu filsafat.”
“Tapi ini betul. Aku mempelajarinya berdasarkan pengalaman,”kata Midori. (Norwegian Wood: 366)

Simpel tetapi mengena bukan?