Where to Go when You Start to Get Sick of Social Media

After the world goes hyper connected, now some people around the world is imagining a less connected, smaller world. Globalization is overrated suddenly and we’ve all heard the advice and plea to go local (I’m not discussing about foods anyway).

Admit it, we know we’re getting tired and sick of Facebook and Twitter and Instagram.

Me too.

I notice I’ve been recently spending less time on those three huge social media services and more or less, feel similarly concerned with all the developments. It hit me especially days ago when I saw a friend lost his job at a media company after lashing out his insult (or tweets he considered as “criticism”) on Twitter.

It got me thinking, “That could’ve happened to me, too!” I cringe.

Social media and the web suddenly turned into a jungle where social niceties are no longer part of norm. Everything is so wild, blatant, shameless, gross.

Unberable, indeed.

So I’ve had enough of it all. The bickering, the twitwar (wars in Twitter), the derogatory updates on Facebook, the degrading remarks on someone else’s behaviors and the tendency of cowardly virtual vigilante justice by netizens (web users as well as abusers). Those go beyond my ken.

To solve that gruelling pain of an increasingly digital world society, some niche online communities and narrower social media services which offer greater privacy level and convenience of sharing sensitive stuff appear and begin to attract the attention of wider audiences around the globe.

Let’s take Patreon, TinyLetter, Finstagram (still sound so mainstream though), Amino as examples. As reported Kaitlyn Tiffany of The Verge wrote last year, Americans feel the urge to avoid being on mainstream social media sites like Facebook (Instagram and WhatsApp are also owned by Facebook, so the three are basically a single entity) and Twitter. ┬áPeople’s resentment towards these two is higher than the one of other big tech companies COMBINED (e.g. Apple, Microsoft, Google and Amazon).

I myself have turned to some old ways of connecting with people to get my messages across. These are:


I know some social media thought leaders who used to be avid bloggers around me. Their then-popular blogs are now left forlorn and deserted like an old dog kept on the corner of the house where a small cage is shoved and ill-kept.

Yes, social media is partly the culprit of their reluctance to write in longer forms ever again. There I say it!


A friend was surprised to see me say hello one day via email. What’s wrong with emails? “You usually contact me on Facebook,” he explained his surprise. I laughed, not so out loud though.

To him, I liked the privacy email offers as a medium of our conversation. No one else – well perhaps God, some ‘big brothers’ – knows our chat. And it feels good because I can make a joke especially made for him without being afraid anyone else is annoyed or offended. As an intoverted communicator, I feel protected and safe.


After my physical personal journal getting read, I resolved that there is no place is safer than a private digital diary no one has an access to.┬áThis is where I can blurt out everything including words I cannot publish on the ‘open jungle’ called internet. Just make sure you have a really really string password, and you’re good to go with your anger, irk, disappointment, without feeling remorse after posting it. This is done by setting up a free blog on any platform like WordPress or Blogger and then set the privacy as “closed” or “private”. Don’t let the search engines crawl it. And definitely don’t tell anyone what the URL is (but even they know they cannot access, unless you are willing to). (*/)

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